Separation is often a ‘catastrophic loss’ to either one or both parties. Adjusting to separation presents complications on many levels, such as self-esteem issues, financial security, friendships, loss of a family unit and the transition to living alone.
One party may be ‘blindsided’ by the separation when they find their partner/Wife/Husband has left a note on the kitchen bench stating that they have had enough of the marriage/relationship, left the family home to their parents and have also taken the kids.
Even parties who agree to amicably separate find it difficult to adjust to their new surroundings/environment, and emotions are fuelled when a party changes their position regarding the division of property despite both having agreed for ‘one to keep the house and pay the other out’.
Whilst many cases are settled outside of Court, stress and anxiety increases exponentially when parties are required to go to Court, especially matters involving children.
Emotions may fluctuate on a day-to-day basis or week-to-week basis. The thought of the family law proceedings weighing on one’s mind whilst they attempt to work or attend social outings affects the atmosphere and attitude of a person.
In the event that you do find yourself in this ‘pressure cooker’ environment, avoid substance abuse and reverting to alcohol to ‘ease’ the tension. Remember to focus on your psychological, emotional and physical well-being by seeking professional help with mental health professionals and doing physical exercise.
Whilst family lawyers make every attempt to make the separation process as smooth as a transition as possible and provide support in times of need, they are not trained counsellors/psychiatrists.
It is important to remember that stress is normal, but if you feel stressed and anxious all of the time, this may lead to depression and other mental health issues if not addressed.
Should this be the case, there a number of organisations that offer support and advice, including but not limited to:
Family Relationship Advice Line
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