Domestic violence is an ongoing problem in Australia with around 1 in 4 women (23%) and 1 in 14 men (7.3%) having experienced violence by an intimate partner since age 15. The holidays are often a break from work and the stress of a busy life. But for those in toxic and unsafe households, holidays can become even more dangerous than normal.
During holidays the heightened stress and expectations can increase tensions in relationships and families. Alcohol consumption and substance abuse becomes more prevalent and increases the risk of abuse. Isolation and breaks during the holidays can limit access to support and can encourage abuse as victims have no escape.
Alcohol consumption is often encouraged in social gatherings, which can make abusers feel a heightened sense of power and control allowing their behaviour to be excused. For victims of domestic violence, holiday social events come with fear rather than excitement and the anticipation for their abusers volatile and unpredictable behaviour.
We often feel the pressures of social obligations to buy expensive gifts, prepare elaborate meals and create a perfect holiday experience. This pressure often brings increased anxiety and frustration which can intensify existing tensions in families and relationships triggering abusive behaviours. Victims feel the weight of this pressure knowing expectations around these gatherings go well beyond the food.
Holidays are often a time we are all with our own families celebrating the joys of special events. Although ironic, for victims of domestic violence holidays can be extremely isolating. The pressures to be with family can often prevent victims from reaching out for help from their friends and family. Not only are victims emotionally isolated, but they can also be physically isolated as many healthcare and support centres are closed or have limited hours due to the holidays. Abusers can often take advantage of these circumstances pushing their victims into corner they can’t escape.
On New Years Day, domestic violence incidents doubled from a median of 72 to 152 incidents. On Christmas, the average number of recorded family violence incidents rose by 33% and on New Years Eve more than 45% more domestic violence assaults than a typical day. These statistics reveal that holidays are not always joyful for everyone, and they call for greater awareness for domestic violence.